Yet another post in which I am wearing no pants.



Gentlemen, you have no Goddamned idea what we ladies go through for you.  Now, believe me, I’m no Princess Peach, here, and I completely eschew most beauty rituals, because, frankly, they’re ridiculous, but I’ve tried most of them…sometimes even twice.  Most of them involve an element of pain, and some of them even involve humiliation, but they are almost universally expensive and have extremely short-term effectiveness, necessitating you to repeatedly visit someone to paint, dye, pluck, pry, cut, scrape, or generally manipulate your body parts into a form that is neither natural nor entirely believable.

Frankly, there are things done in salons that I’m 90% positive would warrant a war crimes tribunal, if not for the fact that we voluntarily made an appointment and paid for it.

Now, while there are many services that these black smocked sadists perform, I’m going to skip right over the easier, less malevolent ones, and go right to the big daddy of them all…the bikini wax.  And I’m not talking about someone taking the edges off, here, I’m talking the whole kit and caboodle, in which they remove all evidence of mammalian ancestry and/or puberty, and send you right back to being a 10-year-old amphibian…at least in the shorts.

Before I go any further…I love the lady I go to.  Truly.  As much as you can love anyone whose last name you don’t know, but who is about to make you cry, via your vagina.  If I have to pay someone to do this to me…this is the girl I choose.

Now, as I understand it, you have a choice when undergoing this minor surgical procedure, of using disposable panties, which are merely for show, and are basically paper floss, or you can just embrace the fact that, after today, this woman is going to be able to identify your labia minora in a lineup, so you might as well drop your trousers, and let her do her damn job without the added complication of navigating fake panties, all while trying not to burn or damage (well…damage MORE) your ladybits.

From here, this poor woman, who as much as she is charging me for this service, is probably underpaid, given that she successfully juggles scrutinizing my undercarriage while carrying on a conversation with me about anything OTHER than what she is doing…effectively making my vagina the undiscussed elephant in the room.

This is when things truly get going.  And memo…it hurts…a lot.  The closest thing that I can compare it to is a bee sting…in a place where you hoped to never be stung…twenty times.  As she pulls the first strip, I go completely blind, but, unfortunately, not mute.

“Fuuuuuuuck,” I gasp, gripping the edge of the table.

And this is when it get’s weird.  Did you hear me?  THIS is where is gets weird.

My esthetician, (bullshit…she’s a bushwaxer ), SLAPS me right where she just clear-cut my lady forest.

Slaps.  It.

Even stranger…her doing this completely takes out the sting.  My eyes must have belied the confusion, because she explains, “It re-sets the nerves.”

A 40-year-old Dutch woman is now slapping me in the puss, and I’m not only paying her for this…I’m grateful she knows to do it.  What the fuck is wrong with this picture?

Several tear-inducing, blood-letting minutes later, in which I thank the good Lord above that I, in no way, take after the Italian side of the family, which would have, undoubtedly, made this procedure last three times as long and require a transfusion of both blood and valium….she is finally done.  Or…I thought she was.  Now, she begins carefully INSPECTING to make sure she got everything, and when she sees a stray that escaped…plucking it out with tweezers.

You know how much it hurts when someone pulls out one of your arm hairs, gentlemen?  Yeah…well, try your labia.  Well, first GROW some labia…then have someone pluck them.

Finally, after a dusting of baby powder (because your entire crotch now looks like it belongs to an actual baby), you’re free to awkwardly pull on your underwear while trying not to wince, and she pulls out a credit card machine, and the whole affair takes on a vaguely brothel-like aura of dirty deeds done for a price, where no one wishes to make eye contact.

At this point, despite the pain and humiliation, or perhaps because of it, you not only pay her…you tip generously, because you completely developed Stockholm Syndrome, and you think that the two of you have been through battle together.  Better…you schedule your next appointment…because it will grow back…and next time…it’s going to be angry.

22 thoughts on “Yet another post in which I am wearing no pants.

  1. Oh lord yes, all of that. I had a bikini wax once. ONCE. Much as I loved the result, I would rather remove the hairs from my bikini line by lighting my pubes on fire than go through that ever again.
    I cannot believe there are people who was the WHOLE THING.

    • LMAO. I do my own legs, but I think some things are best left to professionals. For one thing…she can see what she’s doing, and the area doesn’t really lend itself to viewing, ya know?

  2. I’m over here trying to laugh quietly so my kid swill not ask me what i am reading. this has resulted in this crazy shaking of my shoulders while tears are forming in my eyes. now, my kids are like, “mom, are you okay? are you having a seizure?” okay. so I’ve waxed once. and I was seven months pregnant (I was so huge I couldn’t see my ladyparts much less reach them in order to trim them efficiently). so, firstly – the procedure and subsequent mind numbing pain was a new experience and secondly – your ladybits become “extremely sensitive to basically anything” during this stage of pregnancy (something my *surgeon* mentioned in passing before beginning the procedure). let’s just say I opt for full coverage bathing suits and take care of my bits the best I can in the privacy of my own home. it’s somewhat comforting (in an insane kind of way) to know that other more experienced ladies still experience this described level of pain.

    • You are officially the bravest person I have ever met. There is no way I’d offer of labia in the 3rd trimester. I’d just wear jeans in the pool, if necessary.

      Maybe you should tell him why you’re laughing. It’ll keep him from having sex until he’s 35.

  3. I have a high tolerance for pain. Next to the labor thing, nothing really seems so awful. However, when the Russians come within 5 feet of my cookie, I start sweating and get freaked out. It’s just not natural to have someone be down there for that reason.

  4. WHAT is WRONG with you women who do this? (Me? Judgemental much?) I don’t get you. Why give in to the men who want you to look pre-pubescent? Trim your bush a little if he doesn’t like to floss with your pubes when going down on you, sure–heck, he should trim for the same reason–but PLUCKING or YANKING it out with wax? WTF?! That money you could be saving, or donating to charity. We Americans are so decadent, and it feels to me like American women are sheep regarding male desires, too, like how so many of us give head and don’t get it. Backward steps since the 70’s. But that’s just one Babe’s opinion. Wax on, wax off, as you like. The only one who’s gonna slap MY pussy is gonna be my partner, and he’d better kiss it to make it better.

  5. Thank you for reinforcing my determination to NEVER do this! I had my eyebrows waxed. Once. 9 years ago for my son’s first wedding. Never again and absolutely never this. Good thing I’m opting for celibacy.

  6. Thank you again, Megly… Cimmorene (@wavemistress) saw this before I did.

    All I can say is I wonder if guys are yet following the trends of male porn stars, who remove their pubic hair these days now as well. Don’t ask me how I know, but yes, they’re removing the hair off their scrotums as well.

      • LOL You probably know the same way I know. I was being facetious.

        I was thinking that they usually shave, yes, so I’m not surprised. My thought was more along the lines of what I’ve been told and what I’ve been reading lately, that the younger generations of women *and* men are influenced in their pubic grooming by what they see in porn… or maybe it’s a “which came first, the chicken or the egg” sort of thing.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s